Rock Solid Game

I had my nephew visit me for the last week. He’s 16 and it‘s a good opportunity for me to make sure he’s growing up with the correct role models and making the right choices. He seems to be doing OK. He came out to watch me Burto and Krauser day game a couple of times. More about that later. I have a cool infield vid to show you and two amazing sets to talk about. Anyway. My nephew told me at one point about some girl who liked me back home. Apparently I spoke to her for about 20 minutes one night and she commented that she fancied me. Nothing major. Now I remember this night, I was with two of my nephews on Boxing Day. I remember the bar we were in. I remember it because I had arranged to meet my little cousin in there and it was the first time I had seen her in 10 years. I remember also meeting a buddy of mine who is a pro boxer and he was telling me how things are coming along. I remember this 2 or 3 hours I spent in this bar. But I don’t remember talking to any girl other than my little cousin and her mates. So my nephew shows me a photo of this girl who I had a 20 minute conversation with and here she is. I was really shocked. If you showed me her photo and said ‘she likes you, do you want to fuck her’ I’d say yes. If you said ‘Look, she’s waiting for you, why don’t you get on a train for three hours, spend £100 and a chunk of your time and she’s yours’ then I would probably agree. So the volition is there. By most guys standards, including my own, here is a sexy young girl with a great smile who would turn any head ... and she was into me!! She was after ME and I didn’t even know she existed and I STILL have no recollection of speaking with her (although her face does look familiar, I know I have met her). How can this be possible? I really don’t know. I can’t imagine how some chick in a bar can spend time with me and I don’t automatically switch into lay mode. So I can only put it down to interest. My radar is by now well set. I have this idealised image in my mind of what I want. And I pursue it dogmatically. This girl, as cute as she is, is sexy in a slutty ‘Girls Aloud’ way, not in a womanly elegant way. I struggle currently with dilemma – Do I want to trounce over the world laying or trying to lay every decent girl I come across, fucking as much as I can? I wish I did - but I just don’t. Not really. I know what I want. I know I could go into a bar in London every night one week and pull back 6s and 7s probably 50% of the time if I really wanted to. I really can’t be arsed talking to pawn sets for ten minutes anymore. I can barely be arsed to speak to most targets. Krauser gave me a girl the last time we went to Lithuania. On a plate. And because I had to speak a bit more slowly (her English wasn’t so good), put in marginal effort, I gleefully sacked it off. So I really don’t know whether: a)      My ‘inner game’ and sense of self is tight and I am actually a guy who genuinely doesn’t chase women anymore. I have graduated from that class. I’ve had a lot of women (over 150 now) and don’t need any more. They have to work to get me into their bed. I can only be stirred by the best girls in any given social circle. b)      I have a significant issue. I’ve created an excuse to not approach and a really good one. By only approaching a specific type of girl, and by always doing so all the time, I’ve created an excuse to go at my own pace. A very lazy pace. ‘Hey, you know I always approach when it’s a tall hot girl’. And my wings have to give it to me. Yes I do. But as a result of this twisted veiled type of laziness, I miss many chances. I could get laid twice as much as I do, if I got out of my comfort zone. So this is where I stand. I really don’t know. I really don’t have the answer. I know my game is good, I’d say upper intermediate – but it hasn’t improved or got any better in about 12 months. My abilities with women are good but aren’t getting better. So is this something I want to address but where do I go to do it? Usually when I have questions I just go to the other RSG guys but I am not sure this is something they can help me with. Maybe that’s part of the problem too. I draw my learning from only one small group of trusted people.