Rock Solid Game

I had a student/friend email recently with a question about follow up game, such as text messages. He’d met this girl in a bar and seemingly done a good job in a mixed set to land her number. So he sent her the following message: Hi HB Today I saw a cute cat and it reminded me of you. It was very pleasant to meet a person like you, warm and friendly. I think I made you smile at the beginning but later you made me full of smile. Btw, I sent you a friend request in Facebook. So keep in touch. Her response was short and polite with little investment. My friend asked for feedback, which brings us to this post: Attraction is created by gaining and breaking rapport. Push/Pull. That means giving compliments, but also teasing her at the same time. While I am not saying that the pull isn’t important, I am saying that attraction isn’t created by the pull. The pull is almost only there for logistical reasons. It’s the push that creates attraction. Focus on trying to get good at pushing rather than trying to get good at pulling. I like to keep the first message short. The more you write, the less she will, unless she is massively into you. My student said 5 nice things about her in one message. This tells her that he likes her, a lot. And now there is no mystery, no challenge. My response would possibly have been: You are cute, in a weird space monster kind way. Very unique and cheeky. I bet whenever you go to someone’s house you try and take over the stereo and play all your own music... selfish little fucker! My friend then sent the following message in response to a photo on her Facebook: Hmm.. you look quite a party-girl. Are you the kind of girl who snatches other's drink? I won't tolerate that. Much better.