Rock Solid Game

I am not a big fan of online dating. It's not something I have had much success with or particularly enjoy. I like working sets. Live ones. In bars and parks and hospitals and coffee shops and .... you get the picture.

But I am on a dating site and do experiment. They are good for some experimentation. Recently I played a game. I emailed 20 reasonably hot girls with a message that would clearly bait them into hating me. My game was to turn it around, practice holding my frame while softening to allow some room for theirs. My only rule was this: If they send me a message I MUST respond. No matter what they say. Any message they send me is an IOI. 

So I mailed 20 and I got some good results, below is the best. I never replied to her final message. A week later she deleted her profile. The funny thing is, after learning about the girl, I really liked her.

 
Jimmy's original Message 

I read your profile and it made me dislike you. You're probably OK in  r eal life but it's not doing you  any favours. And if I think that,   

a lot of other men may as well. And it may be the ones you want.   

I don't mean to offend, just   thought I'd let you know.

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Girl's response

bahahahahha 

You're a ****ing riot. I've thoroughly enjoyed your self-entitled representation of the kind of man I might go for. Be assured, you  
aren't. 

If you disliked me so much why send me a message? 

At your age, you should be actively pursuing the girls you DO like. 

 

Jimmy's response

I was browsing, saw you, read your profile and just thought it was   a shame, that's all. You ruined a nice smile.   

Successful guys have choice and pretty faces are common. Your  profile might not be enough and I am sure there is more to you.

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Girl's response

My profile is not me. I am more than enough. Thank you for enforcing a stereotype that I have been trying to  fight with everything I've done in life. 

Please never write back.

 

Jimmy's response

All I am trying to do is help you out. There is no other motive.   I am not interested in dating you based on your profile (and now   

on your resulting reactions). You put yourself below all the women I usually date who are always beautiful AND funny, warm and   

talented.

And yet I am a tall, bi lingual guy and I even own a shaggy dog. I own my own company in the music industry, I travel the world   

working on major film projects, I have houses in Miami and Barcelona and I have more than enough evidence to suggest I am   

the kind of guy women like to be around - I can guarantee you I am, and by your own admission, EXACTLY what you're looking for   

and you lost me in 10 seconds.   

Your anger at me and rationale for not liking me are based purely on the fact that I rejected you and you seemingly think I was   

being unfair.

If you don't want to continue this discussion all you have to do  is not write back. I wish you all the best in the future. You are   

yet a child, but as you mature you'll probably see that I was right. A pretty face and a sour attitude will attract men, but   

not the guys for whom you need to have that little bit more.
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Girl's reponse

I am simply continuing this discussion because I'm intrigued and  because the social experiment we're conducting is unique. Never  

again will I have a guy tell me I "lost" him after reading a few of the sentences I wrote on a silly website.   I'm glad you have a million houses. Go you!  

I have my own reasons for writing what I did and for acting the way I do. You know nothing about my life. 

I am young and I am beautiful and I am incredibly talented. I've finished my undergrad at an ivy league school already and was  

given a scholarship to come here for a pre grad course. In the meantime I have been working for a consulting firm in Toronto for  

the past year and the work I do gives R&D firms enough money to promote entrepreneurial growth in my own country. My mother lost  

her job to outsourcing so I actively work to strengthen the business infrastructure at home. You have no right to talk to me  

the way you do. I'm also not attracted to you. 

I've been hurt, I have hurt and I want to have fun now.  I suggest you do the same

Jimmy's response

That's what you should put in your profile.
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Girl's response

ugh.

what's your shaggy dog's name?
 

Jimmy's response

Plato. My dad was not only the greatest single influence on my life, he was also a philosophy lecturer. We were talking about   

philosophy while I was still reading the Beano (British weekly comic book).I am at heart my father's son. Somewhere inside me,   

and not so deeply, there is a sandal wearing, bearded bespectacled teacher.   

My last girlfriend. Now she was gorgeous. If you saw a photo of her you'd understand where I am coming from. Wherever we went,   

every head turned. She has the body of the Goddess of Sex and the face of the Goddess of Beauty (Greek not Roman). She had her pick   

of men. She is now dating the owner of XXXX, a billionaire who can have anyone.

So when guys like me see a profile saying 'I am beautiful and that's all you need to know ' - our reaction is 'well if ALL you   

have to offer is your looks then, I'll just look elsewhere because looks is only the starting point'. It's like selling a   

car based only on the fact it has a stereo. Yeah... and?

I swear if your profile was a little more like what you just sent to me, maybe a little less hubris, I would have loved it. Someone   

I could converse with as well as fck. And the bit about getting hurt and wanting to have fun sparked in me the warm and urgent   

male desire to protect (women/children). Pretty good.   

But it's your life. Just tell me to go **** myself.
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Girl's response

Plato is the philosopher I focused on for my ancient philosophy  
minor. I have a specialist degree in Literary criticism: french,  
russian, british. I've been a student of Plato's since I was 13.  
I began the Republic then and finished it in my second year of  
uni. He's a monument and a giant. I don't suspect I'll ever  
finish understanding his work. 

Funny you should say that; my dad was my main influence as well  
as I'm also very much a daddy's girl. I knew of Plato's Symposium  
since I was 7 having had my dad tell me about these ancient human  
creatures who were welded together and then separated by the  
furious gods and cut up into the individual, lonely pieces that  
comprise our bodies today. He would tell me that love comes into  
being from loss, not from gain. Our love making is this temporary  
reminder of how we used to live. Yes, it's all very romantic and  
to a 7 year old little girl on a grimy eastern european street  
car (I was born and bred in Romania) my father became Homer and I  
became....enchanted with philosophy and literature. Those were  
the only times I saw my dad; my parents were divorced so these  
bits of story telling were all I would get for weeks.  
I love dogs. I can't walk past a stray or even an owned dog  
without wanting to make it my own. I have gone so far today  
actually as to buy a homeless man's stray some food. I have a  
bleeding heart and I hate myself for it. I'm quirky and silly and  
childish and I'm sorry I said mean things to you. It's so unlike  
me. This site is unlike me. You are rather cute.  

Be well, 

Name of Girl