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Another 20yr old Lithuanian with a boyfriend
Submitted by krauser on 21 September, 2010 - 00:17This
girl was sandwiched in the middle of a daygame session with Jambone.
She’s sitting on a bench in a town square in a deep purple coat which I
use to open: “Hi, [blah blah]. You know what your coat reminds me of?
Raspberry yoghurt. When I was a child… [blah blah]“
girl was sandwiched in the middle of a daygame session with Jambone.
She’s sitting on a bench in a town square in a deep purple coat which I
use to open: “Hi, [blah blah]. You know what your coat reminds me of?
Raspberry yoghurt. When I was a child… [blah blah]“
She’s loving it but on the close
mentions a boyfriend which is subsequently confirmed when I add her to
Facebook. I come back from a night out and catch her online so she’s one
of the six chat windows I have open. This is an educational set because
of how I turn it from mild attraction and zero investment into a fairly
warm set that’s likely to go somewhere if I keep to the Long Game
rules.
mentions a boyfriend which is subsequently confirmed when I add her to
Facebook. I come back from a night out and catch her online so she’s one
of the six chat windows I have open. This is an educational set because
of how I turn it from mild attraction and zero investment into a fairly
warm set that’s likely to go somewhere if I keep to the Long Game
rules.
20:00 Her – hi
20:00 Me – I know what you’re thinking
20:00 Her – what?
20:00 Me – “If I’d known he was that cool, I’d have given him my number” [capture her interest early but non-threateningly but showing cockiness]
20:04 Her – you think very well about yourself… (my english is not very good)
20:05 Me – yes [Simple. Confident]
20:06 Her – so.. are you still in Lithuania?
20:06 Me – It’s the last night What you doing?
20:08 Her – nothing, i’m eating ;D and you? [Signals
she's got nothing better to do. Can probably keep her talking a while
so no need to hurry. Just slowly build rapport and attraction]
she's got nothing better to do. Can probably keep her talking a while
so no need to hurry. Just slowly build rapport and attraction]
20:09 Me – Just been out. Relaxing. Have to be up early tomorrow
20:09 Her – where will you go tomorow?
20:11 Me – Home!
20:12 Her – ok! ;D what is your trade?
20:13 Me – Trade? I was a banker, in the City of London But I quit. I’m retired now
20:14 Her – did’nt like? didn’t*
20:15 Me – I got bored I wanted to spend more time with friends, family and hobbies [beginning mild DHV]
20:21 Her – and what is your hobbies?
20:27 Me – Boxing Reading Wrestling You?
20:29 Her – reading (but not very often) painting drawing
20:31 Me – Oh, so you’re a quiet girl! [mild challenge and tease - everything is mild until she's more invested]
20:33 Her – what do you mean?
20:33 Me – Those are quiet hobbies
20:35 Her – so it’s good or not? what is your opinion? [qualification and shit test in one]
20:35 Me – If you like it, that’s good [honesty, non-judgemental]
20:36 Her – i like it, but i have not very lot of time for this
20:36 Me – why so busy?
20:37 Her – i’m a student
20:37 Me – So not busy [challenge, position myself above her because I know the real world]
20:38 Her – hmm..
20:40 Her – it’s hard to say in english..
20:43 Her – was you ever student? (my english is tragic:( )
20:43 Me – Yeah [reduce my words, see if she invests by lengthening hers to carry the conversation]
20:44 Me – I did a degree and masters degree easy compared to real work
20:46 Her – i almost understand :
20:47 Me – heh!
20:48 Her – in what range you have these degrees?
20:48 Me – range?
20:48 Her – i don’t now how to say what you studied?
20:50 Me – I studied Sociology
20:50 Her – intresting
20:50 Me – It was What interests you? [elicit values, open-ended but relevant]
20:52 Her – i like arts, but i’m studying business management
20:52 Me – Why didn’t you study what you like?
20:56 Her – i thought that its too hard for me, i didn’t trust me
if you understand, what i try to say [she's investing. We're building rapport]
20:56 Me – I think so
20:57 Her – ok then so did you like Lithuania?
21:01 Me – Alot I’d like to stay longer, but I can’t
21:02 Her – why?
21:02 Me – My flight is tomorrow [disqualifier - not trying to talk her into a fuck tonight]
21:03 Her – mm.. :S are you first time in Lithuania?
21:04 Me – I’d have dated you too. You seem fun But no time [time to show interest but instantly disqualify so she doesn't scamper away]
21:06 Her – you understood me not corect, i think ;D
21:09 Her – are you first time in Lithuania, m? ;]
21:09 Me – Second I understood you perfectly I just wanted to tell you You’re cute [don't accept her deflection]
21:11 Her – thank you
21:13 Her – can i ask a question?
21:13 Me – yes
21:13 Her – do you have a wife or girlfriend? [good IOI]
21:13 Me – No wife Girlfriend is complicated [honesty, telling her what she doesn't expect a guy to say]
21:14 Her – ok so you have friends in Lithuania?
21:15 Me – Lots of friends. I’m a social guy You know that [assuming rapport, that we know each other]
21:15 Her – i know, i like that [another IOI]
21:18 Her – i think, that people from other countries are more free in comunications, people from here are more closed
not with friends, with unknown people
21:19 Me – Not English I’m unusual for English [sort of agreeing but reframing myself as special]
21:20 Her – ok what do you think about lithuania people?
21:21 Me – They are naughty Especially the brunette girls Who sit on benches and talk to English guys [escalate after the IOIs, but as a gentle tease]
21:21 Her – 
21:25 Her – did you meet a lot of naughty girls in here?
21:25 Me – Only one was REALLY naughty what’s her
name? I can’t remember oh yes….. Vir? Virgin? Her! That’s it!
She had naughty eyes
name? I can’t remember oh yes….. Vir? Virgin? Her! That’s it!
She had naughty eyes
21:27 Her – with eyelashes like in comics [enjoying roleplay - if she wasn't enjoying this I'd be hearing about her boyfriend or the kettle just boiling by now]
21:27 Me – yeah She looked like she pretends to be nice but is really a wild girl [generic cold read]
21:28 Her – how did you know
21:28 Me – it’s all in the eyes
21:30 Her – maybe.. but i dont think that i’m wild ;D
21:34 Her – i think, that you are very popular with
girls, becase you how to talk and your speach is very original, it’s
your secret gun [MASSIVE IOI!!!!]
girls, becase you how to talk and your speach is very original, it’s
your secret gun [MASSIVE IOI!!!!]
21:35 Me – secret gun? haha. I like that phrase [so I reward her for it, qualifying her and giving her a reason I like her]
21:36 Her – i don’t know how to say in english ;D [likes the reward]
21:39 Her – if you have degree and master degree(i
dont know, what does it mean exactly), i think that you are a little bit
elder then me it’s not nice to ask, but how old are you? [more IOI as she considers the social correctness of he feelings]
dont know, what does it mean exactly), i think that you are a little bit
elder then me it’s not nice to ask, but how old are you? [more IOI as she considers the social correctness of he feelings]
21:43 Her – is it a secret? “p ’]
21:44 Me – hang on a minute [I was actually on another chat, not deliberately waiting]
21:46 Me – BTW, I’m 35 ? You? [not ashamed, not qualifying]
21:48 Her – 20….
21:48 Me – haha too young for me [disqualify her before she can disqualify me]
21:48 Her – too old for me.. ha ha
21:49 Me – We’d be on a date….. and you’d have to order juice, instead of wine [future projection used as a tease]
21:50 Her – and you’d have to order beer ;D
21:51 Me – they’d ask for your ID
21:51 Her – so? ;D i have 18, in lithuania it’s enougth
21:52 Me – 18 and a cheeky face? I’d take you to the zoo
21:53 Her – i’d not go with you [resistance]
21:54 Me – You’d try but they wouldn’t let you in with the adults [reframe]
21:54 Her – you think, tham i am a child that* [qualifying herself]
21:55 Me – You are interesting some things I see are womanly others are girly [snowflaking her]
21:58 Her – i am to young to be serious woman, but i’m not a child i think so
21:59 Me – Have you seen Inception? [snip the thread, it'd acheived it's goals]
22:01 Her – no.. is it good?
22:03 Me – yeah
22:04 Her – about what?
22:07 Her – ok, never mind
22:08 Me – It’s complicated
22:09 Her – i will read about this film in my language ;D
22:10 Her – it’s easyer
22:13 Her – you saw a lot of countries, yes?
22:14 Me – I travel alot. I especially like Japan and Chile [DHV]
22:15 Her – how to decide go to lithuania? how you decide to go to lithuania ? [She's doing most of the work now]
22:19 Me – I brought my friends here for a leaving party 2 months ago I liked it, made lots of friends and got invited bck [leader of men, popular guy]
22:20 Me – Have you been to London?
22:21 Her – no.. :S
22:21 Me – gonna come sometime? [escalate towards commitment]
22:22 Her – sorry, i didn’t understand your question.. :S
22:23 Her – maybe, i don’t know..
22:25 Me – I might invite you maybe [teased SOI]
22:26 Her – ok, maybe
22:26 Me – But there are rules [don't let her dwell, start qualifying her within a roleplay]
22:26 Her – what rules?
Rule 1 You bring me some traditional food
22:29 Her – do you like our food?
22:29 Me – No Traditional Spanish food and Italian and German
Rule 2 …
22:29 Her – ?
22:30 Me – You must behave good No shouting No swearing No dancing naked on tables [verbal escalation]
22:31 Her – oh no, its my hobbies ;D [accepts the escalation and throws it back to me]
22:32 Me – So, I will have to put you in the Naughty Corner for five minutes [position myself as her boss]
22:33 Her – just for five minutes? no problem [enjoying it]
22:34 Me – The first time Ten minutes second time
Rule 3 …. ….
22:35 Her – …?
22:36 Me – No walking around my house in your underwear [stronger escalation, preselection DHV]
22:38 Her – other girls, which you have been invited, was walking there in underwear?
22:39 Me – Yeah, of course [preselection, bold - invite her to wonder why they can and she can't]
22:40 Her – then they were not good girls
22:41 Me – I decide that [I'm the judger] Rule 4 …..
22:43 Me – …. is a rule for me [oh, she didn't expect that]
22:44 Her – i’m waiting
22:45 Me – After our first date if I like you I have to kiss you and [dating pre-frame, escalation but I'm not won over yet]
…. nothing else [release some tension]
22:46 Her – there are all your rules?
22:46 Me – Rule 5 …. no more rules
22:47 Her – i don’t know, it’s too much rules for me ;D
22:49 Me – Rule 6 ….. Any girl who thinks there’s too many rules….
22:51 Her – so i’m not such a girl
22:52 Her – i think, that you should find another girl, which accept with all your rules ;D [playing hard to get]
22:53 Me – Have you seen the best new Russian singer? [snip thread, defuse tension]
22:54 Her – i think no what is it ?
22:55 Me – trololololololol ….. hang on video coming [canned routine to raise her buying temperature, give value, and set up ending the interaction on a high]
22:57 Me – [Trololol link]
22:59 Her – do you like it?
23:00 Her – oooooooo….. lalalalalala… ohohohohoho.. ;D [big hit]
23:01 Me – it get’s better ….. Video 2 [beatbox dog link]
23:01 Her – xi xi 
:D second video is good ;D
:D second video is good ;D23:02 Me – it gets better ….. Video 3 [beatbox dog sings trolol link]
23:03 Her – super
23:04 Me – it gets better ….. last video
23:04 Her – ok
23:05 Me – [trololo cat link]
23:06 Her – D
D23:06 Me – Anywa y gotta go Bedtime
23:06 Her – me to too*
23:07 Her – so, good night and good flight ;]
In the bag.
