Rock Solid Game

This particular report goes way back. This was when I was a new guy to this crazy dating world and most of my time was spent driving through the approach anxiety. But ultimately, it defines my shift in reality. Everyone starting off will receive this shift in reality if they push for it hard enough. Don’t worry, it will come :)

10th July 2009, completely forgot that I had coaching that day and I was rather hungover. Very hungover in fact.

I started off with low energy, Zikki, my first trainer, was gearing me up with lots of information and different mindsets to take.  My brain was already a wreck and was struggling to take anything in.

We arrived in Russell Square and Zikki noticed a beautiful Italian girl sitting on her own on a park bench.  At this point the approach anxiety kicked in, and combined with last night’s alcohol was giving a rather unpleasant numbness.  Anyway I made my way over to her with a coffee in my hand:
 
Me: ‘May I sit with you while I drink my coffee?’

HBItalian: ‘Sure’
 
I sat, joining her for conversation, while I drunk my coffee. Seemed rather simple enough.  However this girl could barely speak English, so it made an easy start for me.  After teasing her bad English for 30 minutes or so, I suggested going for lunch.  My first instant date.  Her interest was coming on really heavy now.  But so was the anxiety.

We made our way over for lunch and sat at a little restaurant off the high street. As we sat there the anxiety started kicking in. The negative thoughts;

‘What do I do now?’ ‘What if I run out of things to say?’ ‘What if I fuck up?’ 

My body was aching to me just to get and run away. It would do anything to just get up and leave.  But there was no way I was going to let myself do that. I was going to push through this.

After relaxing a bit more and pushing for normal conversation, she explains that she is learning English at a school and doesn't know London well. 

Me: ‘You don’t know the highlights of London? I’ll have to show you around’ *Smile*
HBItalian: ‘I would like that’ *Smile*

We finished up and I get her number, and for some reason she even seemed responsive to a kiss. We just stood there while she was just looking at my lips. The anxiety was making me light headed and stepping forward would have most likely resulted with the incident of me passing out. So we said our goodbyes and I promised to call.

We move on to the British history museum.  This was packed with tourists and alot of beautiful women.  It was awesome here.  Zikki noticed another girl, a gorgeous American girl, and this time he pushed me into set.  And it hooked, almost instantly.  I pretended she was a tour guide and made her take me round the whole museum, doing crazy shit to her.  Was so much fun. I got her number at the end and promised to call to meet up again.

We got outside and I started opened up a very beautiful girl. Absolutely stunning. But no anxiety? The conversation went great but she had a boyfriend so I didn’t push much further.

As I walked away, I realised something. Something felt different, I had so much energy.  I mean like fuck loads of energy. So much energy that I could barely stand still. And no anxiety.  I was walking down the road and I was talking to everyone. I mean everyone. An old lady, a lollipop man, people at the bus stop, it felt so fucking good to talk. It was incredible. 

But I knew what it was.  It was the effects of success.  Success smashes old psychological barriers that you have on yourself, the ones that hold you back from approaching, and the ones that stop you from saying what you truly want to say. These barriers can be broken. I done it, you can do it.

It came to the point which I had so much energy and was so happy and relieved with my new found psychological freedom, that I nearly got run over by a Jeep.   Was pretty funny.  Luckly, Zikki pulled me back at the last minute.

Overall, my message here is to say, don’t give up. No matter how anxious you feel, no matter what your brain tells you, don’t give in. Push through all the pain. I promise you, you will grow and things will get really fun ;D

Take care, Moran
 
HBItalian (She’s on the right)