Deep Rapport - SNL
Submitted by suave on 31 July, 2010 - 15:17This is a report of Suave, when he taks his wing man go to a night club in London on a thursday night.
They both arrive very early and while there are not many people in the club, Suave and Wing Man are happy to talk to other guys (AFC's). One in particular is clearly hunting so he starts to open every set of girls, while Suave and Wing Man open all sets with guys. By doing that they show Social Proof/Calibration and non-neediness.
At the beggining of the party Suave had noticed a cute Japanese looking girl (HB8) talking to some guy (evetualy Suave realized he was one of the promoters of the club - he was clearly hitting on her) but he couldn't open her, just not yet.
About one hour later, Suave is in set, and he notices HB8 standing almost next to him, trying to get pass...
Suave streches his hand and opens her: i am Fernando
HB8: I am HB8
Suave: Are you japanese?
HB8: I'm not japanese... i won't tell where i'm from... it's a secret.
Suave nods...
HB8: How do you spell your name?
Suave pulls his phone out and spells his name on the phone
HB8: Fernando!
Suave: How do you spell yours?
Hb8: HB8
Suave: Are you on facebook?
HB8 smiles and nods affirmatively, knowing what comes next
Suave: How do you spell your last name (with cheeky smile)
HB8 spells last name, Suave saves it and now he can carry on with game knowing he's got her details (in a very smooth way).
Suave leads HB8 to the bar, just so he can lock in. They are both having an animated conversation, few DHV stories, build a little bit of rapport and Suave leads her again to a sofa near by.
When they sit down, Suave grab hold of her hand and put around his arm so they are arm and arm, talking (kino). Now they build a stronger connection while they are still having fun. Suave leads the conversation and switches from serious talk to banal talk as he pleases (it's a good way to build rapport) They are both having fun and Suave gets HB8's number as it's more Rock Solid than facebook and they go dancing for 20 minutes.
Soon the party will be over, it's better to leave before the end. Suave tells HB8 that he's gonna leave. She's gonna leave too so they leave together.
Outside of the club they walk arm on arm
HB8: I feel like we've known each other forever
Suave: I know, i feel the same way...
HB8 suggests they go for a walk, Suave agrees and now that there is no loud music, Suave can work on an even deeper rapport with HB8... and they do so... after the walk they take the same bus. HB8 agrees to walk Suave to his house ;)
Back at Suave's house he is showing her his garden and he tries to kiss her. She pulls away:
HB8: I shouldn't even be here.
Suave: It's ok, we enjoy being around each other... Let's go upstairs, i'll show you my room.
Suave sits in front of the computer and show her some pictures (DHV pics). He invites her to sit on his leg.
They are listening to Samba Music and the escalation for the kiss is there.
Suave kisses her shoulder as she is sitting on his leg still, showing pictures... he kisses her shoulder again, show more pictures, kiss shoulder, show pictures... she is enjoying it and now Suave can go for the kiss.
Soon they are making out on his bed.
Just for the record, this is a good girl who went out to a club but she didn't have any alcohol. She is very aware of what she is doing and trusting Suave.
Everything that happened after was so natural - we will skip the details.
Before they fall asleep, HB8 lays on Suave's chest and says:
-I feel safe...





