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Dear Jimmy,
 
As per your text, I've signed up for the may 1st beginers seminar and I want to use weekends to start working on my approach anxiety.  Were there any tips, hints or methods I can use?

I'm a reasonably shy guy but am willing to work hard.

Regards,

Student

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Dear Student,

We are currently writing a course for remote learning that covers what you seem to be looking for. In the meantime,  for approach anxiety try the following.

Leave your house on Saturday morning. Find a tree. Tear off 15 leaves.

You can’t go home until you have thrown away all 15 leaves.

Leaves 1 – 5

You lose a leaf just by approaching someone (anyone age or sex) and asking a question (what time is it, where is the shop), making firm eye contact and with a smile. Instead of saying goodbye, offer a high five. Whatever happens, just smile and laugh like you’re a devil may care, fun kind of guy. Do more if you can but to lose a leaf it has to be Question, Eye Contact, Smile, Hi 5.

Leaves 6 – 10

You have to do exactly as you did with the first 5 leaves only after the open, you have to make some kind of fun, friendly observation about the person you are talking to. Hi five before you leave. Do more if you can but to lose a leaf it has to be Question, Eye Contact, Smile, Observation, Hi 5.

Leaves 11-15  

Same as leaves 6-10 only this time you have to use a proper opener, not just what time is it, stack to another opener, make an observation and then before you leave you have to say ‘you’re interesting, we should hang out sometime’.

By the time you’re doing the heavy stuff you’ll have long lost your approach anxiety. It actually goes by about the 4th leaf.

Jimmy